Imre Pataki and The Gentle Art
by George Dounis
"When one is ready to learn, the teacher will appear." This quotation has continued to surface in our conversations since Imre and met "by chance" at Saint Ann's gym in October of 1997. Dressed in a well worn white karate suit with a black belt that night, he was unobtrusively conducting a group of youngsters through a variety of physical challenges.Though very soft spoken and almost saintly in appearance, he was unmistakably in control of this group. Interestingly, it was control without controlling. The boys were having loads of fun and doing all sorts of things that no one could possibly order them to do.
My son Joseph, who was with me at the time to watch his sister try out for basketball, was enthralled. When the class was over, he walked up to Imre without any hesitation and stated he wanted to learn karate too. Imre patiently pulled a soccer ball out of his bag and immediately engaged Joseph's attention and interest in a remarkably natural way.
When they were done, I walked up and introduced myself. I had already made up my mind that this would be Joseph's teacher and perhaps mine as well. Imre immediately began expounding on the virtues of observing children at play and stated simply that we adults should emulate them and recover our own exuberance for movement and physical expression. And how do we do this, I was thinking to myself, when he flipped over his black belt in answer to my unspoken question. On it was sewn in yellow thread: "the gentle art."
Based on the martial art of aikido which literally translates into "the way of balance and harmony," the gentle art teaches one through physical movements with a partner to perceive the flow of energy rather than the person or object wielding it. One enters, blends, and redirects that energy with the positive intention of doing no harm. There are no opponents. The gentle art is not about competition, strikes,blocks, struggles. There is no intimidation implied nor is any perceived in others.
The conscious application of these basic principles in my everyday life has fostered self discovery and confidence, perception and control of energy flow, breath and vitality, flexibility of body and mind, awareness of internal balance including diet and behavior, and physical limitations, joy of movement, harmonious interaction with my family and others, and ultimately love for what I once perceived as a hostile world and an indifferent universe.